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Uniform with this Volume 

In Friendship's Name 



HAT MAKES A 
FRIEND? 

DEFINITIONS AND 
OPINIONS FROM 
VARIOUS SOURCES COL- 
LECTED AND COMPILED 
BY VOLNEY STREAMER 




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UT, ah, no words can quite disclose 
What makes a friend ! 



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July, 1896. 
Fifth Edition : again enlarged, published in New York, July, 

1899. 
Sixth Edition : published, April, 1901. 

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UBRfiBTV ofOOMGRFSS 
TVim Conies Revived 
OCT 19 1904 
JSooyrteht Entry 

LASS <2. XXo'Na 



TO MY FRIEND 



" What is bet-ween us tivo, we know ; 
Shake hands and let the whale world g»S 



1H, friend, let us be true 

To one another ! For the world, which seems 
To lie before us like a land of dreams, 
So various, so beautiful, so new, 
Hath really neither joy, nor love, nor light, 
Nor certitude, nor peace, nor help for pain', 
And we are here as on a darkling plain 
Swept with confused alarms of struggle and flight, 
Where ignorant armies clash by night. 

— Matthew Arnold. 



SLENDER acquaintance with 
the world must convince every 
man that actions, not words, are. the 
true criterion of the attachment of 
friends ; and that the most liberal 
professions of good-will are very far 
from being the surest marks of it. 

—George Washington. 



]V[o distance of place or lapse of 
time can lessen the friendship of 
those who are thoroughly persuaded 
of each other's worth. 

— Robert S out hey. 



A little peace£ul home 

Bounds all my wants and wishes ; add to this 
My book and friend, and this is happiness. 

— Francesco di Rioja. 



|F all felicities, the most charm- 
ing is that of a firm and gentle 
friendship. It sweetens all our cares, 
dispels our sorrows, and counsels us 
in all extremities. Nay, if there were 
no other comfort in it than the bare 
exercise of so generous a virtue, even 
for that single reason a man would 
not be without it; it is a sovereign 
antidote against all calamities — even 
against the fear of death itself. 

— Seneca. 



t is chance that makes brothers, 
but hearts that make friends. 

— Unknown. 



|RE we ever truly read, save by 
the one that loves us best? 
Love is blind, the phrase runs. Nay, 
I would rather say, love sees as God 
sees, and with infinite wisdom has 
infinite pardon. 

— Ouida. 



T^hese things do not require to be 
spoken; there is something in the 
hand grip, and the look in the eye 
that makes you know your man. 

— C. H addon Chambers. 



UT would go up to the gates of hell with a friend, 

Through thick and thin." 

The other said, as he bit off a concha's end, 

" I would go in." 

— John Ernest McCann. 



|0R friendship maketh indeed 
a fair day in the affections, 
from storm and tempests, but it 
maketh day-light in the understand- 
ing out of darkness and confusion of 
thoughts; neither is this to be under- 
stood only of faithful counsel which 
a man receiveth from his friends; 
but before you come to that, certain 
it is, that whosoever hath his mind 
fraught with many thoughts, his wits 
and understanding do clarify and 
break up in the communicating and 
discoursing with another: he loseth 
his thoughts more easily; he mar- 
shalleth them more orderly; he seeth 
how they look when they are turned 
into words;' finally he waxeth wiser 
than himself; and that, more by an 
hour's discourse, than by a day's 
meditation. 

— Bacon. 

r> eal friendship, like all best things, 
costs; but also like them, it pays. 

— Unknown. 






IO word is oftener on the lips of 
men than " friendship,'' and in- 
deed no thought is more familiar to 
their aspirations. All men are dream- 
ing of it, and its drama, which is al- 
ways a tragedy, is enacted daily. It is 
the secret of the universe. 

— Thoreau. 

T t is a sad thing that there comes a 
moment when misery unknots 
friendships. There were two friends; 
there are two passers-by ! 

— Victor Hugo. 

\I 7 ho in want a hollow friend doth try, 
Directly seasons him his enemy. 
— Shakspere. 
Priendship — to be two in one — 
A Let the canting liar pack ! 
Well I know, when I am gone, 

How she mouths behind my back. 
— Tennyson. 



OFTEN find myself going 
back to Darwin's saying about 
the duration of a man's friendships 
being one of the best measures of 
his worth. 

— Anne Thackeray Ritchie. 



HThat two men may be real friends, 
they must have opposite opinions, 
similar principles, and different loves 
and hatreds. 

— Chateaubriand. 



TT is a good thing to be rich, and a 
*good thing to be strong, but it is a 
better thing to be beloved of many 
friends. 

— Euripides. 



I ME keeps no measure when true friends are parted, 
No record day by day; 
The sands move not for those who, loyal-hearted, 
Friendship's firm laws obey. 

— Meredith Nicholson. 



r\EVOTiON to a friend does not con- 
sist in doing everything for him, 
but simply that which is agreeable, and 
of service to him, and let it only be 
revealed by accident. 

— Unknown. 



A true test of friendship, to sit or 
walk 'with a friend for an hour in 
perfect silence without wearying of 
one another's company. 

— Mrs. Mulock Craik. 



|HINK of those twenty years of 
Napoleon, from 1790 to 18 10. 
How he beat and buffeted the- world 
about like a tennis ball; how he 
hated without loving and destroyed 
without constructing; how he smote 
with breathless terror every nation of 
the earth, and yet could not fasten 
to him with hooks enduring a single 
friend who would outlive calamity. 
— Unknown. 

TJ e who serves and seeks for gain, 
And follows but for form, 

Will pack when it begins to rain, 
And leave thee in the storm. 

— Shakspere. 

T have never believed much in friend- 
ship ; it is a tie which binds the 
weak. Strong characters break it 
early. 

- -Willis SteelL 



Ul^JOW were Friendship possible? 
MM In mutual devotedness to the 
Good and True; otherwise impos- 
sible ; except as Armed Neutrality, 
or hollow Commercial League. A 
man, be the Heavens ever praised, is 
sufficient for himself; yet were ten 
men, united in Love, capable of being 
and doing what ten thousand singly 
would fail in. Infinite is the help 
man can yield to man 

— Thomas Carlyle. 

*"pHE first foundation of friendship 
is not the power of conferring 
benefits, but the equality with which 
they are received, and may be re- 
turned. ' 

— -Junius. 

tt is more disgraceful to distrust 
than to be deceived by our 
friends. 

— Rochefoucauld. 






|ERE all thy fond endeavors vain 
To chase away the sufferers smart, 
Still hover near, lest absence pain 
His lonely heart. 

For friendship's tones have kindlier power 

Than odorous fruit, or nectared bowl, 
To soothe, in sorrow's languid hour, • 
The sinking soul. 

— Sadi. 



Tf a man does not make new acquain- 
tances as he passes through life, 
he will soon find himself left alone. 
A man should keep his friendships 
in constant repair. 

— Johnson. 



|I RST of all things for friendship 
there must be that delightful, 
indefinable state called feeling at ease 
with your companion, — the one man, 
the one woman out of a multitude 
who interests you, who meets your 
thoughts and tastes. 

— Julia Duhring. 

CRiendship based solely upon grati- 
tude is like a photograph ; with 
time it fades. 

— Carmen Sylva. 



A nd what is friendship but a name, 

A charm that lulls to sleep ; 
A shade that follows wealth or fame, 
But leaves the wretch to weep ? 
— Goldsmith. 



HERE is a common belief, 
which perhaps is just, that 
there is not so much friendship in 
the world as there used to be. Vari- 
ous causes have been assigned for 
this — that men are less heroic, more 
querulous, more selfish, more domes- 
tic. In my opinion the real cause 
is want of time. And it must be re- 
marked that to keep up friendship, 
it is not sufficient to have spare time 
now and then; but you require an 
amount of certain and continuous 
leisure. 

— Arthur Helps. 



CVERY man will be thy friend 

Whilst thou hast wherewith to spend ; 
But if store of crowns be scant, 
No man will supply thy want. 

— Shakspere. 



WO people who are friends 
make themselves responsible 
for each other. If I had a friend, 
and he went to the bad, and I met 
him in rags and poverty and disgrace, 
and if it ruined me to own him and 
help him, I should have to do it. If 
two men are really friends, nothing 
can come between them. 

— David Christie Murray. 

CRiENDSHiP above all ties does bind the heart, 
And faith in friendship is the noblest part. 

— Lord Orrery. 

tf you would know how rare a thing 
a true friend is, let me tell you 
that to be a true friend a man must 
be perfectly honest. 

— Henry W. Shaw. 



FRIEND is a rare book, of 
which but one copy is made. 
We read a page of it every day, till 
some woman snatches it from our 
hands, who sometimes peruses it, but 
more frequently tears it. 

— Unknown. 



TV To love in any relation of life can be 
at its best if the element of friend- 
ship be lacking, and no love can 
transcend, in its possibilities of noble 
and ennobling exaltation, a love that 
is pure friendship. 

— H. C. Trumbull. 



"The difficulty is not so great to die 
*■ for a friend, as to find a friend 
worth dying for. 

— Home. 



[HERE are evergreen men and 
women in the world, praise be 
to God! — not many of them, but a 
few. They are not the showy folk; 
they are not the clever, attractive 
folk. (Nature is an old fashioned 
shopkeeper: she never puts her best 
goods in the window.) They are 
only the quiet, strong folk; they are 
stronger than the world, stronger 
than life or death, stronger than Fate. 
The storms of life sweep over them, 
and the rains beat down upon them, 
and the biting frosts creep round 
them; but the winds and the rains 
and the frosts pass away, and they 
are still standing, green and straight. 
They love the sunshine of life in their 
undemonstrative way — its pleasures, 
its joys. But calamity cannot bow 
them, sorrow and affliction bring not 
despair to their serene faces, only a 
little tightening of the lips; the sun of 
our prosperity makes the green of 
their friendship no brighter, the frost 
of our adversity kills not the leaves 
of their affection. 

— Jerome K.Jerome. 



FAITHFUL and true friend 
is a living treasure, inestim- 
able in possession, and deeply to be 
lamented when gone. Nothing is 
more common than to talk of a friend ; 
nothing more difficult than to find 
one ; nothing more rare than to im- 
prove by one as we ought. 

He who has made the acquisition 
of a judicious and sympathizing 
friend, may be said to have doubled 
his mental resources. 

—Robert Hall. 



'X'he anxiety of some people to make 
new friends is so intense that 
they never have old ones. 

— Unknown. 



ITHERS will kiss you while your mouth is red; 
Beauty is brief. Of all the guests who come 
When the lamps shine on flowers, and wine, and bread, 

In time of famine who will spare a crumb? 
Therefore, oh, next to God I pray you, keep 

Yourself as your own friend, the tried, the true, 
Sit your own watch — others will surely sleep, 
Weep your own tears, ask none to die with you. 

—Sarah M. B. Piatt. 



'"There is no folly equal to that of 
throwing away friendship in a 
world where friendship is so rare. 

— Edward Bulwer. 



Friendship is but a slow-awaking 
dream, troubled at best. 

— N. P. Willis. 



H 



|N austere love springs up be- 
tween men who have tugged at 
the same oar together, and are yoked 
by custom and use and the intimacies 
of toil. This is a good love, and, since 
it allows, and even encourages, strife, 
and the most brutal sincerity, does 
not die, but increases, and is proof 
against any absence and evil conduct. 
— Rtidyard Kipling. 

A friendship will be young after 

the lapse of half a century ; a 

passion is old at the end of three 

— Madame Swetchine. 

itherto doth love on fortune tend; 

For who not needs shall never lack a friend. 

— Shakspere. 

ho ceases to be a friend, never 

was a friend- TT , 

— Unknown. 



W 



[RIENDSHIP is apt to creep 
away into some corner. of the 
temple on whose shrine love has 
descended. This mild affection is 
but a twinkling taper that will burn 
steadily on, perhaps unseen, amid the 
dazzling glory of love's supernatural 
lamp, to be found shining benignahtly 
when the lamp is shattered. 

— M. E. Br addon. 

'"There is in friendship something 
* of all relations, and something 
above .them all. It is the golden 
thread that ties the hearts of all the 
world. 

— John Evelyn. 

Friendship is the highest degree of 
perfection in society. 

— Montaigne. 



|RIENDSHIP is the supreme 
tie. It is stronger even than 
the bonds of blood, as we see in the 
case of Jonathan, who stood by his 
friend David even against his own 
father. When two hearts have be- 
come one in the mystical union of 
friendship, that relationship should 
mean more to them than any matter 
of circumstance, fortune, or individ- 
ual benefit 

— Unknown. 



i shun a friend who pronounces my 
actions to be good though they 
are bad. I like a simple friend, who 
holds my faults like a looking-glass 
before my face. 

— Ghozali. 



|HIS matter of friendship is often 
regarded slightingly as a mere 
accessory of life, a happy chance if 
one falls into it, but not as entering 
into the substance of life. No mis- 
take can be greater. It is, as Emer- 
son says, not a thing of " Glass 
threads or frost-work, but the solid- 
est thing we know." 

— T. T. Munger. 



O mall service is true service while it lasts ; 

*^ Of friends, however humble, scorn not one ; 

The daisy, by the shadow that it casts, 

Protects the lingering dewdrop from the sun. 

— Wordsworth. 



|FTER a man has passed forty 
years of age he makes no more 
friends. He has passed the period 
when it is possible for him to open his 
heart and confide its best secrets to 
anybody who did not possess them 
before ; but there is no period, if he 
lives to be one hundred, when, if the 
sun still shines for him as it did at 
twenty, his heart cannot open to a 
man whose heart is also open to the 
rays of- the god of day, that he cannot 
look out and find a man who can 
sympathize with his success, who can 
grieve with him in his sorrows, who 
can give him a helping hand — not in 
a pecuniary or gross sense — but a 
helping hand if he is blue or tired, and 
who can always be relied upon, either 
at the festive board or away from it, 
to say, "Old man, your hand. God 
help you ; I will." 

— Chauncey M. Depew. 



TEN as a traveler, meeting with the shade 
Of some o'erhanging tree, awhile reposes 
Then leaves its shelter to pursue his way, 
So men meet friends, then part with them forever. 

— Hitopadesa. 



'"ris pity- 
That wishing well had not a body in't, 
Which might be felt ; that we, the poorer born, 
Whose baser stars do shut us up in wishes, 
Might with effects of them follow our friends. 

— Shakspere. 



|HEIK SCHUBLI, taken sick was borne one day, 
Unto the hospital. A host the way 
Behind him thronged. " Who are you ?" Schubli cried. 
"We are your friends," the multitude replied. 
Sheik Schubli threw a stone at them ; they fled. 
"Come back, ye false pretenders ! " then he said ; 
"A friend is one who, ranked among his foes, 
By him he loves, and stoned, and beat with blows, 
Will still remain as friendly as before, 
And to his friendship only add the more." 

— Alger, from Jamee. 



|t may be a cold, clammy thing to 
say, but those that treat friendship 
the same as any other selfishness 
seem to get the most out of it. 

— E. W. Howe. 



IHE books for young people say 
a great deal about the selection 
of friends; it is because they really 
have nothing to say about friends. 
They mean associates and confidants 
merely. Friendship takes place be- 
tween those who have an affinity for 
one another, and is a perfectly nat- 
ural and inevitable result. No pro- 
fessions nor advances will avail. 

— Thoreau. 



Priendship that flows from the 
A heart cannot be frozen by adver- 
sity, as the water that flows from 
the spring cannot congeal in winter. 
— J. Fenimore Cooper. 



|E inherit our relatives and our 
features and may not escape 
them ; but we can select our clothing 
and our friends, and let us be careful 
that both fit us. 

— Volney Streamer. 



'oo late we learn — a man must hold his friend 
Unjudged, accepted, faultless to the end. 

— John Boyle O'Reilly. 



T n pure friendship there is a sensa- 
tion of felicity which only the 
well-bred can attain. 

— La Bruyere. 



HAVE always looked upon it as 
the worst condition of man's 
destiny that persons are so often torn 
asunder just as they become happy 
in each other's society. 

— Boswell. 



A generous friendship no cold medium knows, 

Burns with one love, with one resentment glows. 

— Pope. 



Friendship receives its crown in 
marriage when love is mingled 
with admiration and respect. 

— -John McLandburgh. 

CRiEND is a word of Royal tone. 
Friend is a Poem all alone. 

— A Persian Poet. 



IIMES and places new we know, 
Faces fresh and seasons strange, 
But the friends of long ago 
Do not change. 

— Andrew Lang. 

As people grow older friends and 
associates of youth are apt to be 
more appreciated, and old relations 
are oftentimes resumed that have 
been suffered to languish for many- 
years. 

These links with the past form a 
chain that, next to the ties of blood, 
forms one of the strongest relations 
of social life. 

Although pessimists declare that 
friendship is a myth and what are 
called intimates are people who con- 
sort together for amusement or self- 
interest, the very fact that there is 
this feeling of especial kindness for 
old-time associates proves that there 
is such a thing as sentiment indepen- 
dent of worldly considerations. 

—Unknown. 



MAN'S love is the measure of 
his fitness for good or bad com- 
pany here or elsewhere. Men are 
tattooed with their special beliefs, 
like so many South Sea Islanders ; 
but a real human heart with divine 
love in it, beats with the same glow 
under all patterns of all earth's 
thousand tribes. 

— O. W. Holmes. 

i i tie is my friend," I said, — 

n " Be patient ! " Overhead 
The skies were drear and dim ; 
And lo ! the thought of him 
Smiled on my heart — and then 
The sun shone out again ! 

— James Whitcomb Riley. 



riendship survives death better 
— -J. Pettes Senn. 



F 

than absence. 



|RIENDSHIP is good, a strong 
stick; but when the hour 
comes to lean hard it gives. In the 
day of their bitterest need all souls 
are alone. 

— Olive Schreiner. 



\ x/hen two friends part, they should 
lock up each other's secrets 
and exchange the keys. The truly 
noble mind has no resentments. 

— Unknown. 



qomething in ourselves warns us at 

- once 
a friend. 



- once of any change of feeling in 



— Sarah Grand. 

ever to have encountered a con- 
to one's own is tragic. 
— Dorothea Lummis. 



N 

stancy equal to one's own is tragic. 



|N youth every chance-met ac- 
quaintance is hailed as a friend. 
But as one grows older, and the real 
nature of friendship becomes better 
understood, fewer and fewer wear 
for one the golden name of friend. 
For the man or woman who has 
reached middle life with half a dozen 
friends — real friends who will bear 
all the tests of friendship — is rarely 
fortunate. One or two such friends 
are all that most of us can hope to 
win, and we may count ourselves rich 
with them. 

— Unknown. 

/^ommunion with the good is friendship's root, 
That dieth not until our death ; 

And on the boughs hang ever golden fruit : — 
And this is friendship, the world saith. 

Ourselves we doubt, our hearts we hardly know, 
We lean for guidance on a friend ; 

Ay, on a righteous man we'd fain bestow 
Our faith, and follow to the end. 

— Bhartrihari. 



|HO can afford to go through life 
without especial friends on 
whom he may bestow especial 
care and love ? When old age comes, 
that man is poor indeed — in heart — 
compared with what he might have 
been, if he has loved no life-long 
friend. Select your friends without 
regard to what they may perform for 
you. That is not friendship which 
forever seeks itself ; but that which 
gives itself for others. And having 
given once my love to any man, I 
never will recall it. Hearts that once 
were warmed and welded may not be 
safely severed. When the whirlwind 
of disaster comes and sweeps his 
worldly goods away, I still will be 
his friend. When the brand and 
blaze of scandal come and ruin repu- 
tation, I will remain his friend ; and 
if he meet disaster worse than these, 
his fair fame ruined, his good soul 
soiled by sin, I still will be — and all 
the more — his friend ! If in that 
moment of his moral overthrow I 
prove that I am not a friend indeed, 
what can I say if he do never rise 
again, when nothing less than love 
had power, perchance, to rescue him ? 
— Perry Marshall. 



IFE hath no blessing like an 
earnest friend; than treasured 
wealth more precious, than the power 
of monarchs, and the people's loud 
applause. 

— Euripides, 



A common friendship — Who talks 
of a common friendship ? There 
is no such thing in the world. On 
earth no word is more sublime. 

— Henry Drummond, 



/^vne can not be a friend without 
^ having one. 

— A. S. Hardy, 



IRIENDS— Old friends- 
One sees how it ends. 
A woman looks 
Or a man tells lies, 
And the pleasant brooks 
And the quiet skies 
Enchant no more 
As they did before ; 
And so it ends 
With friends. 

— W. E. Henley. 

/^vnly he who is unwilling to love 
^ without being loved, is likely to 
feel that there is no such thing as 
friendship in the world. 

— H. C. Trumbull. 



"II 7hen friendship goes with love it 
' * must play second fiddle. 

— German Proverb. 



IHE man who will share his purse 
with you in the days of poverty 
and distress, and like the good Sa- 
maritan, be surety for your support 
to the landlord, you may admit to 
your confidence, incorporate into the 
very core of your heart, and call him 
friend; misfortunes cannot shake him 
from you; a prison will not conceal 
you from his sight. 

—J.Bartlett. 



Qay not that friendship is only ideal : 

^ That truth and devotion are blessings unknown; 

For he who believes every heart is unreal, 

Has something unsound at the core of his own. 

— Eliza Cook. 



|E can never replace a friend. 
When a man is fortunate 
enough to have several, he finds 
they are all different. No one has 
a double in friendship. 

— Schiller. 



r\ ne faithful friend is enough ; it is 
^ even much to meet with one, yet 
we cannot for the sake of others 
have too many friends. 

— La Bruyere. 



A faithful friend is the true image 
^ of the Deity. 

— Napoleon. 



HOU mayest be sure that he 
that will in private tell thee of 
thy faults, is thy friend, for he adven- 
tures thy dislike, and doth hazard thy 
hatred ; there are few men that can 
endure it, every man for the most 
part delighting in self-praise, which 
is one of the most universal follies 
that bewitcheth mankind. 

— Sir Walter Raleigh. 



"To friends and eke to foes true kindness show ; 
No kindly heart unkindly deeds will do ; 
Harshness will alienate a bosom friend, 
And kindness reconcile a deadly foe. 

— Omar Khayyam. 



"Fhe love of man to woman is a thing 
common and of course, and at first 
partakes more of instinct and passion 
than of choice ; but true friendship 
between man and man is infinite and 
immortal. 

—Plato. 



jOW many of us can say of our 
most intimate alter ego, leav- 
ing alone friends of the outer circle, 
that he is the man we should have 
chosen, as the net result after adding 
up all the points in human nature 
that we love, and principles we our- 
selves hold, and subtracting all that 
we hate ? The man is really some- 
body we got to know by mere 
physical juxtaposition long main- 
tained, and was taken into our confi- 
dence, and even heart, as a makeshift. 
— Thomas Hardy. 

*npHE vital air of friendship is com- 
posed of confidence. Friend- 
ship perishes in proportion as this air 
diminishes. 

— Joseph Roux. 



|HY friend will come to thee unsought, 
With nothing can his love be bought, 
His soul thine own will know at sight, 
With him thy heart can speak outright. 
Greet him nobly, love him well, 
Show him where your best thoughts dwell, 
Trust him greatly and for aye ; 
A true friend comes but once your way. 

— Unknown. 



"~pHE supreme happiness of life is 
the conviction of being loved for 
yourself, or, more correctly, being 
loved in spite of yourself. 

— Victor Hugo. 



friendship is a word the very sight 
of which in print makes the heart 
warm. 

— Augustine Birr ell. 



WONDER if there is anything 
in this world as beautiful as 
good, strong friendship between two 
men ? They don't go round doing 
the molly coddle act ; they don't kiss 
each other every time they meet ; in 
fact, they never do kiss each other, 
unless one is lying cold in death; 
but they are sure one knows the 
other is always going to stand by 
him, and they feel that, no matter 
what happens, each can rely on the 
other. 

— Unknown, 



\A/e talk of choosing our friends, 
but friends are self elected. 

— Emerson, 



O moisten with one's tears the other's brow, 

If needs be. 
To turn one's back on pleasure, maybe life, 
To take and hold all troubles, burdens, strife, 

If needs be. 
To bind oneself with an unwritten vow, 

If needs be. 

To ever yield a sympathetic ear, 

If needs be. 
To laugh when laughter onward flies, 
To laugh, though for us mirth but cries, 

If needs be. 
To bravely face, and show no cowardly fear, 

If needs be. 

To be stone deaf when censure's in the air, 

If needs be. 
To lose one's wit and give no apt reply, 
To seem a fool, rather than draw a sigh, 

If needs be. 
To yield in all thy dealings double share, 

If needs be. 

— Charlotte Mansfield. 



IUSCEPTIBILITY is the 
foundation of attachment; 
but it is strength of feeling that 
ripens it into a genial and durable 
friendship. 

It is a curious circumstance when 
persons past forty before they were 
at all acquainted form together a 
very close intimacy of friendship. 
For grafts of old wood to take, 
there must be a wonderful congeni- 
ality between the trees. 

— Richard Whately. 



\xter einen Freund auf Erden hat, 
oh ! der halte ihn fest ! Denn 
die Welt ist so arm fur ein warm fiih- 
lend Herz. 

J. Lilsen. 



(ANY kinds of fruit grow upon 
the tree of life, but none so 
sweet as friendship; as with the 
orange tree its blossoms and fruit 
appear at the same time, full of re- 
freshment for sense and for soul. 

— Lucy Larconi. 



'"To contract ties of friendship with 
any one, is to contract friendship 
with his virtue; there ought not to 
be any other motive in friendship. 

— Confucius. 



M 



ark the difference between inti- 
macy and friendship. 

— Erwin E. Wood. 



|LWAYS leave my friend some- 
thing more to desire of me. 
Be useful to my friend, as far as 
he permits, and no further. 

Be. much occupied with my own 
affairs, and little, very little, with 
those of my friend. 

Leave my friend always at liberty 
to think and act for himself, espec- 
ially in matters of little importance. 
— Gold Dust. 



•"There are no rules for friendship. 
It must be left to itself. We can 
not force it any more than love. 

— Hazlitt. 



|HINK of the importance of 
friendship in the education of 
men. It will make a man honest; it 
will make him a hero; it will make 
him a saint. It is the state of the 
just dealing with the just, the mag- 
nanimous with the magnanimous, the 
sincere with the sincere, man with 
man. 

— Thoreau. 

Deople who always receive you with 
great cordiality rarely care for you. 
Your true friends make you a partaker 
of their humors. 

— Manley H. Pike. 

A man's reputation is what his 
*"*• friends say about him. His char- 
acter is what his enemies say about 
him. — Unknown. 



|EJOICE, and men will seek you; 

Grieve, and they turn and go, 

They want full measure of all your pleasure, 

But they do not need your woe. 
Be glad, and your friends are many ; 
Be sad, and you lose them all, — 
There are none to decline your nectar'd wine, 
But alone you must drink life's gall. 

— Ella Wheeler Wilcox. 



Tt is easy to find a lover and to re- 
tain a friend: what is difficult is to 
find the friend and to retain the 
lover. 



— Levis. 



T aughter is not a bad beginning 
for a friendship, and it is the 
best ending for one. 

— Oscar Wilde. 



IHERE are many moments in 
friendship, as in love, when 
silence is beyond words. The faults 
of our friend may be clear to us, but 
it is well to seem to shut our eyes to 
them. Friendship is usually treated 
by the majority of mankind as a tough 
and everlasting thing which will sur- 
vive all manner of bad treatment. 
But this is an exceedingly great and 
foolish error; it may die in an hour 
of a single unwise word; its condi- 
tions of existence are that it should 
be dealt with delicately and tenderly, 
being as it is a sensitive plant and not 
a roadside thistle. We must not ex- 
pect our friend to be above humanity. 

— Ouida. 



|N the hour of distress and misery 
the eye of every mortal turns 
to friendship; in the hour of gladness 
and conviviality, what is our want ? 
it is friendship. When the heart 
overflows with gratitude, or with any 
other sweet and sacred sentiment, 
what is the word to which it would 
give utterance ? A friend. 

— W. S. Landor. 



Tf your friend has got a heart, 
There is something fine in him ; 

Cast away his darker part, — 
Cling to what's divine in him. 

— Unknown. 



|HE tide of friendship does not 
rise high on the banks of perfec- 
tion. Amiable weaknesses and short- 
comings are the food of love. It is 
from the roughnesses and imperfect 
breaks in a man that you are able to 
lay hold of him. My friend is not 
perfect — no more am I — and so we 
suit each other admirably. 

— Alexander Smith. 



*"rRUE friendship cannot be among 
many. For since our faculties 
are of a finite energy, 'tis impossible 
our love can be very intense when 
divided among many. No, the rays 
must be contracted to make them 
burn. 

—John Norris. 



|STEEM of great powers, or 
amiable qualities newly dis- 
covered, may embroider a day or 
week, but a friendship of twenty 
years is interwoven with the texture 
of life. A friend may be found and 
lost, but an old friend never can be 
found, and nature has provided that 
he cannot easily be lost. 

— Samuel Johnson. 

De able for thine enemy 

Rather in power than use, and keep thy friend 
Under thine own life's key. 

— Shakspere. 

^pRUE love and fidelity are no more 
to be estranged by ill than false- 
hood and hollow-heartedness can be 
conciliated by good usage. 

— Charles Lamb. 



IN old friendship is like an old 
piece of china. It is precious 
only just so long as it is perfect. 
Once it is broken, no matter how 
cleverly you mend it, it is good for 
nothing but to put on a shelf in a 
corner where it won't be too closely 
looked at. 

— Amelia B. Edwards. 



tf we would build on a sure founda- 
tion in friendship, we must love 
our friends for their sakes rather 
than for our own. 

— Charlotte Bronte. 



qatire is a greater enemy to friend- 
ship than is anger. 

— Attwell. 



|N real life, help is given out 
of friendship, or it is not 
valued; it is received from the hand 
of friendship, or it is resented. We 
are all too proud to take a naked 
gift; we must seem to pay it, if in 
nothing else, then with the delights 
of our society. 

— Robert Louis Stevenson. 

CRiendship is an education. It 
draws the friend out of himself 
and all that is selfish and ignoble in 
him and leads him to life's higher 
levels of altruism and sacrifice. Many 
a man has been saved from a life of 
frivolity and emptiness to a career of 
noble service by finding at a critical 
hour the right kind of friend. 

— Unknown. 



CRIends slowly won are long held. 
— Unknown. 



|RUE, it is most painful not to 
meet the kindness and affection 
you feel you have deserved, and have 
a right to expect from others ; but it 
is a mistake to complain of it, for it is 
no use*; you cannot extort friendship 
with a cocked pistol. 

— Sidney Smith. 



IVTever refuse any advance of friend- 
ship, for if nine out of ten bring 
you nothing, one alone may repay 
you. Everything is of service to one 
who knows how to use his tools. 

— Madame de Tencin. 



Oeason is the torch of friendship, 
* judgment its guide, tenderness 
its aliment. 

— De Bonald. 



JOT understood. How trifles often change us! 
The thoughtless sentence or the fancied slight 
Destroy long years of friendship and estrange us, 
And on our souls there falls a freezing blight, 
£Jot understood. 

— Thomas Bracken. 



'"Take envy out of a character and 
it leaves great possibilities for 
friendship. 

— Elizabeth B. Custer. 



TVTever yet 



Was noble man but made ignoble talk. 
He makes no friend who never made a foe. 

— Tennyson. 



|LD friends are the great bles- 
sing of one's later years. Half 
a word conveys one's meaning. They 
have a memory of the same events, 
and have the same mode of thinking. 
I have young relations that may grow 
upon me, for my nature is affec- 
tionate, but can they grow old friends? 
— Horace Walpole. 



FJriends are like melons; shall I tell you why? 



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To find one good you must a hundred try. 
— Claude Mermet. 



''The only true and firm friendship 
is that between man and woman, 
because it is the only affection ex- 
empt from actual or possible rivalry. 
. — A. Comte. 



IEOPLE who have warm friends 
are healthier and happier than 
those who have none. A single real 
friend is a treasure worth more than 
gold or precious stones. Money can 
buy many things, good and evil. All 
the wealth of the world could not 
buy you a friend or pay you for the 
loss of one. 

— Unknown. 



'"pHE ideal of friendship is to feel as 
one while remaining two. 

— Madame Swetchine. 



""po act the part of a true friend 
requires more conscientious 
feeling than to fill with credit and 
complacency any other station or 
capacity in social life. 

— Sarah Ellis. 



|F one have any oro sodo about 
one at all, either mental or 
moral, one never counts what shreds 
of the good metal one drops along 
the roads. If others pick it up, let 
them. To be of ever so little use is 
all one can hope for in this world. 

— Ouida. 

k friend that you have to buy won't 
be worth what you pay for him, 
no matter what that may be. 

— George D. Prentice. 

*-po practise a deception is almost to 
commit a crime. The flow of 
kindness thus driven back is with- 
drawn from others whom it might 
have benefited. 

— Carmen Sylva. 



IHE new joy in a new friend- 
ship is a joy that could not 
have been known in an earlier friend- 
ship. Yet the old made ready for 
the new. If the new friendship be 
in the line of true growth and true 
progress, it is a gain to the friend 
and to all his friends. It needs no 
apology, it provokes no challenge, in 
view of the highest claims of all pre- 
existing friendships. It advantages 
them all by its added benefits. Yet 
it is a new joy : a joy unspeakable, 
and full of blessing ; a joy both new 
and old. 

— Unknown. 



n friendship lies the joy superlative, 

And nearest Heaven. We touch God's hand whene'er 



We clasp a friend's. 



— Olive T. Dargan. 



jHOUGH the seasons of man full of losses 
Make empty the years full of youth, 
If but one thing be constant in crosses, 

Change lays not her hand upon truth; 
Hopes die, and their tombs are for token 

That the grief as the joy of them ends, 
Ere time that breaks all men has broken 
The faith between friends. 

— Swinburne. 



DEFINITIONS OF "A FRIEND." 

London Tit-Bits offered a prize for the best 
explanation of the meaning of the words 
"A Friend." The winning definition is given 
first, followed by some of the best of the others 
submitted. 

|HE FIRST PERSON WHO COMES IN 
WHEN THE WHOLE WORLD HAS 
GONE OUT. 

A bank of credit on which we can 
draw supplies of confidence, coun- 
sel, sympathy, help and love. 

One who combines for you alike the 
pleasures and benefits of society 
and solitude. 

A jewel whose lustre the strong 
acids of poverty and misfortune 
cannot dim. 

One who multiplies joys, divides 
griefs, and whose honesty is in- 
violable. 

One 



One who loves the truth and you, 

and will tell the truth in spite of 

you. 
The Triple Alliance of the three great 

powers, Love, Sympathy, and Help. 
A watch which beats true for all 

time, and never " runs down." 
A permanent fortification when one's 

affairs are in a state of siege. 
One who to himself is true, and 

therefore must be so to you. 
A balancing pole to him who walks 

across the tightrope of life. 
The link in life's long chain that 

bears the greatest strain. 
A harbor of refuge from the stormy 

waves of adversity. 
One who considers my need before 

my deservings. 



The jewel that shines brightest in 

the darkness. 
A stimulant to the nobler side of our 

nature. 
A volume of sympathy bound in 

cloth. 
A diamond in the ring of acquaint- 
ance. 
A star of hope in the cloud of adver- 
sity. 
One truer to me than I am to myself. 
Friendship, one soul in two bodies. 
An insurance against misanthropy. 
A link of gold in the chain of life. 
One who understands our silence. 
The essence of pure devotion. 
The sunshine of calamity. 
A second right hand. 



RONDEAU 

TO W. H. 

|H AT makes a friend ? The heart that glows 
With changeless love in Arctic snows, 
Nor fails to cheer 'mid desert sand ? 
This plainer speaks than clasp of hand : 
Hands may be firmly clasped by foes. 

How quickly liking often grows, 

Before the speech we understand ! 
By gleam of eye one often knows 

What makes a friend. 

A thing far frailer than a rose 

Turns sudden strong as iron band : 
The world again is newly planned ; 
Upon the soul there comes repose ; 
But, ab, no words can quite disclose 
What makes a friend ! 

— Volney Streamer. 



words came as ready as ideas, 
and ideas as feelings, I could 
say ten hundred kind things. You 
know not my supreme happiness at 
having one on earth whom I can call 
friend. 

— Charles Lamb, 



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